Do you feel comfortable in your clothes when you're in your own neighborhood...
But would you feel lost if you have to dress for a corporate job interview?
Let's go through a few more scenarios.
Let's say you grew up in a really urban environment (the ghetto) or a really rural environment (the boonies)...
and you worked really hard...you put yourself through school...got a great job... CONGRATS!!!
AND then...let's say you're invited to your boss' house for a relaxed business dinner for the entire office. Do you know what to wear?
(This has, of course, happened; it's pretty standard depending on your field)
Or let's say you were invited to the Cape (Cape Cod) for a semi-formal business clam-bake at a multi-million dollar estate?
(That happened to me and I had a great time...and I looked great)
Or let's say you're flown across the country to attend a barbecue at a millionaire's estate because your firm has been hired by his company.
(This happened to me as well...and I looked great)
Or let's say you fell in love with a wonderful guy and you marry and he flies you to a romantic European holiday...what do you wear?
(We had a lovely time...and I looked great)
Of course your intelligence, wit, and charm will shine through ANY outfit, but it feels great when you can navigate various fashions too.
It feels great when you can pull off Urban Chic (tight jeans & hoops) AND other styles equally well (NorthEast Prep/Relaxed Cali/Formal/Professional/White Tie.)
Have you thought about what your clothes say about you?
For the longest time, I didn't even THINK about my wardrobe at all. I simply wore what I wanted, and it was an odd combination of wannabe Delia's + Aaliyah music videos + Midwest grunge with a sprinkling of fairy dust and unicorns.
I was totally awesome.
But as I matured (got a real job), I began to think about what my outfit said in different situations.
Could I really wear my regular clothes to a "casual" weekend with the millionaire lawyers I worked for?
Of course I COULD, but SHOULD I?
After I grew up and was in different situations (college/professional/different cultural situations) I looked at my peers.... professional young women who I admired, young women who were were motivated, career oriented, elegant, and wealthy...when I looked at them, I saw that they could pull off causal and low key for more neighborhood oriented affairs...
But they could also pull of extremely formal styles.
Not only could they LOOK elegant...they WERE elegant, they spoke elegantly, they walked elegantly, and they were TREATED ELEGANTLY.
And then I realized... that I suddenly had no idea how to dress myself. And it was not because I didn't have style (I've actually designed clothes since I was in grade school). I didn't dress well because, frankly, I had no idea what image I wanted to present to the world. I didn't know what I wanted my clothes to say for me, when people saw me. I just didn't know who I was...I wasn't a young urban girl, I wasn't a Midwest teenager...I was an artist and professional, a researcher.I really need to think about who I was and what I wanted to present to the world, in order for me to coalesce those ideas into some sort of personal style.
Clothes matter. It doesn't matter how expensive your clothes are, or where you bought them, what does matter is: color, cut, and fit. Even if you want to present to the world that you are Lady Gaga, your clothing will do that, and do it well.
It's great to have diversity in your wardrobe for the different situations that can arise in a person's life, from running into the President, meeting your future husband, running into your boss, or just feeling amazing when you go out and people are stunned by your everyday elegance.
Right now, I prefer to dress elegantly everyday. And for me, that basically means pretty American traditional...with a sprinkling of fairies and unicorns 😉